I have come to realize that complaining is really not good for you or anybody else. Complaining sets a tone of discontent and dissatisfaction. It’s a downer. As a marriage and family therapist I often have couples come in to my office to basically complain about their partner. They look at me like I’m supposed to take sides and support their arguments. It never ceases to amaze me the trouble some give me as I seek to take their attention away from the faults of their spouse (which they can’t change) to their own faults (which they can change). I think we can get so good at seeing the negative in others that we actually enjoy it.

My suggestion to you is that you stop complaining. God would never put more on you than you can bear. 1 Cor. 10:13 So stop whining about the load you are bearing. Your role in your marriage is to love your spouse – not point out their faults and fix them. Do your job at work – don’t worry about all the politics and whatever. Focus on what you can do to make your church a better place. Your perspective is your life’s compass. So check that your perspective is pointing North.

Joe Follette

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